What would you do differently in your relationship if you knew you had just one month left together?

Would you forgive more quickly?

Speak more kindly?

Laugh more often?

Put your phone down and be fully present?

Hold hands longer, linger over coffee, or say “I love you” out loud instead of assuming they already know?

Inspired by One Month to Live by Kerry and Chris Shook, this question challenges couples to stop waiting for the “perfect” time and start living—and loving—with greater purpose, urgency, and connection.

At CoupleStrong, we’ve reimagined the core message of this life-changing book as a 30-day challenge for couples: one month to live like your relationship truly matters—because it does.

The Truth We Often Forget

Life is full of distractions. Between work, kids, stress, and routines, even the best relationships can drift into autopilot. We assume there will always be more time. We say, “We’ll talk later,” “We’ll reconnect on vacation,” “We’ll fix it eventually.”

But the truth is, we’re never guaranteed more time. What we do have is today—and the way we love today shapes the story we’ll tell tomorrow.

So the question becomes: If you had just 30 days to build something lasting with your partner, how would you spend them?

4 Core Commitments to Make in the Next 30 Days

The Shooks break down their book into four powerful challenges. Here’s how couples can translate those into a month of relational growth:

1. Live Passionately — Rekindle the Spark

Passion isn’t just about sex—it’s about showing up with energy and intention. Bring back the small touches, spontaneous compliments, and real conversations.

Ideas:

• Plan a surprise date
• Recreate your first kiss or first date
• Text them something flirty or funny during the day
• Try something new together—cooking, dancing, hiking

Ask each other: What makes you feel most pursued by me?

2. Love Completely — Remove the Barriers

Loving completely means clearing out the emotional clutter—the grudges, assumptions, and unspoken hurts that stand between you.

Ideas:

• Have a “clear the air” conversation (with gentleness and grace)
• Write each other a letter of appreciation and apology
• Ask: “Is there anything you’ve been afraid to say?” and just listen

Remember: Forgiveness isn’t a feeling—it’s a choice to stop letting the past rob you of the present.

3. Learn Humbly — Grow Together

The best couples are students of each other. They stay curious, keep asking questions, and remain open to change.

Ideas:

• Read a relationship book together (or One Month to Live)
• Take a CoupleStrong assessment or challenge
• Ask: “What’s something you wish I understood better about you?”
• Share your dreams, fears, or faith in a deeper way

Growth isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about becoming someone worthy of their love.

4. Leave Boldly — Create a Legacy of Love

None of us knows how much time we have, but we all leave a legacy. For couples, that legacy is built one loving choice at a time.

Ideas:

• Record a video message for your kids or future selves
• Start a gratitude ritual every evening
• Do something kind for another couple who’s struggling
• Commit to one habit that strengthens your emotional connection

Ask yourselves: If our relationship was a movie, would we be proud of how we’re writing the ending?

One Month. One Commitment. One New Story.

You don’t need a crisis to start loving like time matters. You just need a choice.

So if you’re ready to stop coasting and start connecting, we invite you to make the next 30 days count. Live like your love matters—because it does. Speak what’s on your heart. Laugh like you mean it. Heal what’s been ignored. And above all, choose each other—every single day.

Because when you live and love on purpose, even 30 days can change everything.

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